You Are Special

Deep in our hearts we know we are special. Yet our outer experiences train the mind and ego to begin to question this. Gradually, we wonder if we were wrong. If the heart is wrong. And almost imperceptibly we begin to shift out of our hearts and take up residence in the fortress of our minds. Harsh words. Perceived failures. Rejections by others. All seem incongruent with our original knowing that we are special. Our mind begins to seek external trappings to prove we are special, even while it self-rejects our inner certainty of our specialness. The mind hijacks us, convincing us we are valuable if… Valuable if others like or accept us. Valuable if we perform to perfection. Valuable if we are willing to reject ourselves and abscond from the very uniqueness that makes us special, and instead play a role, play the part of what the mind perceives the world needs us to be. This is the greatest illusion of all and we perpetrate it upon ourselves. So what space is there for love between the suffocating machinations of the mind? What space for connection, when all is a show of puppet strings and appearances the mind constantly engineers for ourselves and others? And who is this audience? Others who are solely concerned with their own puppet show, their own thoughts and ideas on how manufacture the right perception of them among others. And soon we pass into the cruel conundrum of the mind from which the only escape is by moving back into the heart.

Because despite all the invective hurled and leveled at the heart by the restless, inferiority-and-superiority-obsessed mind the heart has never forgotten what it knows. Within it, much like DNA, it holds the energetic blueprint of your true soul, your essence. It knows who you really are. And through it’s expression it allows you to feel love. Love for yourself, through all the glorious imperfections which make you special but which the mind would rail you must eradicate. Love for the specialness of others in all the ways the mind would judge them for those self-same qualities and label them deficiencies instead of God-imbued expressions of the light. And so we walk, unconscious to our own glory and connection to everything, locked in the separation of over-developed mental consciousness.

You are special. This is something you know. But not with your mind. Ask your mind now, and it will reveal to you a litany of counter-arguments and propositions. The mind is a lover of interruption, of “But”, or the breaking of energy, and flow, and the quietude of love. Now ask your heart, “Are we special?” And this is we, as there is no separation. And it shall reply to you not in words, but beneath the rising protestations of the fearful mind the heart will vibrate like a deep, certain harmony within us. A vibration we can feel. To hear it, however, we must quiet the mind. Quiet the mind to remove the cacophony which drowns out the thrumming field of our inner essence. Once you hear and feel your heart’s certainty you are special, not in terms of better-than or less-than as the mind would have it, but special and unique among other special and unique beings, you will experience calm. No longer will you sweat with the agitations and pre-occupations of those around you. No longer will you curry for favor in love. Gone are the obsequious beseechings and beggings of the love-servant, desirous only of being desired and accepted by their partners. You will be free of the crippling self-doubt which wrenches joy, lightness and laughter from you in the presence of receiving love.

Your worth will know itself.

And from here, all you are will be about love. And in love.

This is the most powerful state known to being.

This is your natural state.

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