“Where Should I Go To Meet Quality Men?”

Because I get so many women asking me this question, let me share my top strategy with you for finding where to meet a quality man. It’s the answer to the “WHERE?” question in finding the love your deserve. Try this strategy to give your love life a big boost.

In step one of the Date Men Not Boys Formula, which we shared with you last week, you got clear on WHO. Who you have attracted and dated. Who the right man is for you. Most importantly, you got clear on who you need to be in order to be HIS ideal woman so he’ll want you as much as you want him. This is your vision for who you can be.

In step two of the Date Men, Not Boys formula, we focus on designing your Nine Environments (financial, body, nature, physical etc.) to align with your vision for yourself. When you align all nine of your environments to support, not sabotage, your transformation into his ideal woman then you no longer need to seek men out. Quality men begin finding you, and they are usually better quality men than you’ve ever attracted before!

While we don’t have space to get into all nine environments today, let me give you tips in two of your environments to make a big impact right away. Let’s look at the Body and Physical environments. The Body Environment includes appearance, fitness, sleep, health, energy and so on. The Physical Environment are your physical surroundings, such as your home, office-space, car, and belongings.

So, let’s say your “WHO” step vision-statement was for you to be a “Sophisticated, alluring lady who turns heads when she walks into a room.” (Pretty great vision for yourself, right?). Next, we assess if your Body Environment supports you or gets in the way of you becoming that woman. Score the environment on a scale of 1-10. One means your body environment is not in alignment with your vision statement at all, and ten means your environment is perfectly aligned. If you feel unsexy, overweight and unattractive, you would give your Body Environment a low score, like 3/10 at being aligned with being a “Sophisticated, alluring lady who turns heads when she walks into a room.”

But you don’t need the perfect body for your score to go up. The moment you commit to and follow through on small actions to improve your Body Environment, your score goes up. Sometimes all we need to know is that we’re actually doing something to move towards our goals. The small action may be to begin climbing the stairs at work instead of taking the elevator, or going to bed a half hour earlier, or perhaps not eating anything sugary after 10pm at night. These actions would immediately let you feel more attractive and sexy. We are more positive in our body image once we are taking the right actions to align it with our goals, even if our body has not changed yet. Over time, as you continued to take consistent action, your body would change too and your score would rise. You want all your environments at a score of 7 or higher in order to draw the right man into your life.

The key is doing small actions repeatedly, in all nine environments, gradually bringing them all into alignment with your vision of yourself. For example, replacing old, worn clothes with new ones would improve your Physical Environment (surroundings and belongings). I had one client powerfully shift her Physical Environment by doing the dirty dishes she had been neglecting. Her vision statement was to be a “Responsible, grown-up woman” so she could attract an emotionally mature, financially-stable man. After a couple of weeks making these small changes to several of her environments, she met a guy she called “the first real grown-up man I have ever dated”. She didn’t search for him. She met him in the course of living likea “Responsible, grown-up woman.” That’s the power of aligning your Nine Environments.

If you’re tired of searching for the right man, or wondering where to meet him, take control of your life back and design your Nine Environments. Feel free to start with the environments we mentioned today and pick a small action that will bring them in alignment with your vision for yourself. You’ll fee’ great! If you’d like to go deeper into all Nine Environments, we do so in the Date Men, Not Boys course and one-on-one client work.

Here’s the great news: you can finally stop asking, “Where do I go to meet good men?” because it turns out the answer is in you and your Nine Environments. So pick an action step to take in one of your environments today and bring love closer to finding you.

In our next article we will go over what attracts men instead of boys!