I was looking over some of my writing today and I wanted to share something I am very grateful for. This is what brought Anna into my life, and also why I was attracted to her. It’s how we attract the partner who is right for us.
It is our slight imperfections that make us unique. Like a piece of jewelry; an antique diamond cast in silver and worn by your grandmother may bear the dings and marks of the full lifetime of her experiences. How do you compare the beauty of such a jewel next to the cold, seeming perfection of a flawlessly cut machine-engineered diamond stone, set in a “precious” ring and sold at a mall in the suburbs?
Which speaks more to you?
The unique glimmer of slight imperfections is what the natural would call genetic variance. Picture a tropical fish whose colorful pattern carries one bright spot that none of its forbears and predecessors ever bore. That spot which makes it oh-so-slightly different is also precisely what draws more mates to it — this is not idle musing, this is scientific fact!
Where we run into problems with what we call flaws are when they are extreme in nature. A slight imperfection in the hand-hammered circle of that sterling heirloom-ring makes it charming. An acute, massively out-of-place gouge in that circle, however separates it from being what it truly is. It damages it severely.
In human terms, this would be a gross, extreme separation between our true self and the self we try to portray. Our distortions come from this gap. When we cease to try to be whom we are not, the distortions cease. The circle looks like a circle. The ring is beautiful, and complete.
But it will be imperfect. Not imperfect because it’s not a true expression of our self — but imperfect AS a true expression of self! Self can only express as distinct from those around us BY variation. Otherwise, we would all be the same.
How shall you attract a mate by fitting in with all of the rest? How will your particular mate recognize you if you are camouflaged as others?
Nature rewards the variation.
Be the variation.
Be the imperfection.
Be that beautiful vintage diamond.
Be yourself.
Much Love,
Barry
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