“Who Should I Be Dating?”

A beautiful woman recently told me she had no luck with men. “I keep attracting the wrong guys.”, she said with discouragement. I replied, “No you don’t. You’re attracting exactly who you are supposed to.” Well, she didn’t like that answer, so I went on to explain something to her that always helps women, so I decided to share it with you too in this week’s issue (along with some quick action steps for you to “change your luck”).

Who you have dated and attracted in your life has a lot to do with who you have been. If that sounds like tough love, it is. But that doesn’t mean it’s your fault when a guy is a jerk.

The first thing I do with clients in the Date Men, Not Boys program is identify who they have been attracting. Without an awareness of your pattern, you stand very little chance of making a change. Try the following exercise, which comes straight from the Date Men, Not Boys course:

1) List the traits (including personality, job, family relationships, way of expressing emotions, daily habits, etc.) of the men in your last three major relationships. What do these men have in common?

2) What did I find attractive about them?

3) What did they find attractive about me?

Answering these will start to give you some insight into why you are attracting the same sort of man over-and-over again. (This is where I often help clients see the things they can’t notice, because spotting our own pattern is like trying to look at the end of our own nose!) Once you have finished the first three questions, here is the next step:

4) Write at least one full page describing everything about your ideal man. Be very specific. Include his looks, clothing, job, car, hobbies, family, where he lives, what he likes to eat, watch, listen to, etc. The more specific you are, the more powerful the results.

Tony Robbins found his wife Sage by being hyper-specific when envisioning the right person for you. If you go to a travel agent and ask for a ticket “somewhere nice” you won’t get anything, will you? But if you tell them you want a trip to a classy, but laid-back resort somewhere in Bali, then they will be able to give you a great recommendation and a plane ticket! So don’t be sparing in the details, really take at least a full page and describe everything about your dream man!

In the Date Men, Not Boys program we go deeper into this with 6 more powerful WHO questions. Once you know who you want in your life, it becomes easier to know how to find and attract him.

Next week, we’ll go over WHERE you can find him! I’ll be sharing more juicy tidbits you would normally have to join the Date Men, Not Boys program to learn. Tune in for more secrets to help you get the guy you really deserve this year.