Sometimes I don’t know what to say (The truth about finding a man and love)

Sometimes I don’t know what I will say to you, my readers. Sometimes I look inside and the vessel is empty, needing to recharge and refill. Sometimes I look inside and there is more than can pour from the mouth of the vessel at once. Too much inspiration isn’t a bad thing, except when it bumps into itself as it leaves your mouth like three people trying to fit through the same door.

So where am I today… and how can I help you find your way to a man? To the right man. To the man you’ve longed for your whole life, who loves you for you. Who sees you at your best, even when you doubt yourself. Who lifts you up when you’ve fallen and lifts you higher when you spread your wings to soar?

Perhaps I start by leading you back to yourself. Do you know who you are, or have you forgotten? There was a little girl once. A girl who knew joy, love, self-confidence.. and who was untroubled by the perplexities of boys. You may have wondered where that girl went. Or you may have held responsible those who hurt her and drove her into hiding over the years.

But I assure that little girl, and her belief in herself, and in love, are very much alive inside you.

You just have to find her.

Find her like the lost child who needs you to guide her. To bring her back into the light where she can shine.

But something about men prevents you from bringing her back. Something about men leaves you scared, frustrated, hurt… things you long ago decided that little girl didn’t deserve to experience, so you stepped in to protect her. You stepped in to experience the trauma, the disappointment, the hurt feelings when a man did not get back to you, when you gave love that wasn’t returned, when you felt abandoned, put down… put last. You became strong for her. And in the process you shut her up in a safe place where no one could reach her. And where she couldn’t be seen. Where her singing and laughter could not be heard. Where the brightness of her hopeful eyes could not be seen.

You decided the hardness of life and love was not for her. And you locked her away… to keep her safe, you said. But she is not safe. She is suffocating.

She is lonely. She is alone.

So you are alone.

The journey today is to see through her eyes. To ask yourself if you can feel less fear as an adult. Less fear so you can assure her the world is safe enough for her to show her face. To express her true quirky, wonderful personality among men and not fear she will be hurt.

Can you promise her you are here for her. You are here to listen to her fears rather than tell her of your own.

Because this is the path to love.

But what good is this journey it if it is solely inside? What good is a destination if one never steps foot on an actual path to get there? What good is having your true inner essence alive inside you… seeing and hearing her again as your awareness of her grows because you’re reading this today… what GOOD is that if there is no action?

Living is a series of intentions borne into action. Strung together it is a life. A whole life, from birth to death.

What action will you take today to let her play in the light and air of the world? What steps will you take to your destination of freedom to be yourself, to love and laugh? Today… not tomorrow because once tomorrow comes you will again say, “Not today… maybe tomorrow”… tomorrow never truly comes. All we have is today, and what are you prepared to do TODAY.

What will you do to be her again today?

I’d love to know. Email me the commitment you make to yourself, your little forgotten girl, to be YOU today. What will you do to declare the world is safe enough to be yourself?

Tell me. Then tell yourself. Then DO it.

Much Love,
Barry

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